Being carefull of What you feed on!

Be carefully of What you feed on

We are what we feed on, if you feed on what is worth, somehow that is what you are going to be made of. whatever you feed on will define who you are whether it is worth or worthless, thats what you become.

God wants those he created those he called children to be truly His children. To be victorious like he is victorious, be holy like he is holy. All this because he created them with love and with wonderful plans, plans to prosper them and not to harm them, plans to give them hope and a future Jeremiah 29:11.

The only problem is that often we don't know. In Hosea 4:6 God says that "My people are being destroyed because they don't know me..."

However it is possible to know and to achieve  this amazing life that God has for us, though added to the grace He has provided, It requires doing certain things. They are things we do that shape who we are from our thinking, attitude to even the physical appearance.

The scripture says in the book of Proverbs 23:7 For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he!

You know what people see outward or even the definition you can give to yourself at the moment, is most of the time the result of what has happened to your inside man either through hearing things, seeing things or doing things consciously or unconsciously. Just check your attitude, where does it come from? your style of dressing, where did you get it from? Your accent, where did you get it from? how about your skills?

All these things we have or we are, is a result of who we look at, what we have read, what we have watched and what we have listened to. Some of these things can have an emotional impact on you which can be positive or negative and thats where the problem lies, In the end we either triumph or regret.

However it is up to us to decide what to reflect or represent. Making best decisions for our lives requires discipline.

1) You have to say no or yes to certain things. sometimes even without asking anyone, deep inside you, you know what is right and what is wrong, what to do and what to not do. If you check very well it is always clear. Moreover it is good to pray too, just making a short prayer and asking God what is right is always good. In James 1:5 the scriptures says" If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all men liberally, and reproaches not; and it shall be given him. The Lord is on your side.

2) Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.Philippians 4:8

Excise spending time reading and doing things that are helpful, things that can build rather than destroy you, things such as; reading the bible, reading news watching documentaries, learning music, doing sports etc.  There is a possibility of things popping up on the internet that can tempt you to read and often you find yourself going astray from what you had started or someone calling you for something out your schedule . Learn to say no to what is not helping or what you din't plan if it is causing harm to your plan.

Listen, watch and try to learn from experienced people and people you consider praiseworthy.

Jesus gave them this answer: "Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does. John 5:19

Follow God's example, therefore, as dearly loved children Ephesians 5:1


God bless you!


Written by David Cyabukombe

10 Characteristics of Lousy Leaders by Michael Hyatt.

If you look at the major news stories in business, politics, diplomacy, whatever, it’s pretty hard to miss that most of the crises we face are crises of leadership.

I once worked for a man who couldn’t pull the trigger on a project, ever. I would bring him a request with all the supporting documentation. He would ask me to rerun it. When I came back, he would want it rerun again, and again.

It was like an endless doom loop of frustration. I could never get him off the dime. By the time he approved it, the opportunity was lost, and he would blame me for missing it. It was utterly dispiriting.

I’ve worked for a few spectacularly bad bosses in my time. And as a corporate executive I’ve had others equally bad occasionally working for me.

Maybe it’s no surprise, but whether it’s those leaders in my immediate experience or the ones I read about in the news, I see the same failures and mistakes over and over, and each one has a direct impact on getting the results we want.

I’ve arranged them here as the top-ten characteristics of lousy leaders. These are all traits to avoid – or unlearn if you already have trouble with them:

1 They don’t have enough confidence to lead at their level. The boss I mentioned at the start was like this. He couldn’t decide because he had no faith in his decisions.

2 They’re arrogant, assuming they always know what’s best. It takes confidence to lead. It also takes humility. Many leaders think they’re confident when they’re really just pigheaded and proud.

3 They’re disorganized. I’ve worked with some hard-driving, capable leaders who hamstrung themselves by never getting organized. I reported to one leader like this, right up until I was promoted above him. The first thing I did was fire him.

4 Their words and actions erode trust, even with their supporters. When I fired the boss I just mentioned, this is the primary reason for my decision. I could never count on him as his direct report. (Reporting directly to him, I couldn’t depend upon him to follow through with all he said he would do). I certainly didn’t want him reporting to me.

5 They over-promise and under-deliver. This one affects more than just politicians. People leading in an organization often do this because they are trying to impress those above them, failing to realize that by under-delivering they are shooting themselves in the foot. And people at the top fall into the trap by overusing promises as a way to ensure team loyalty.

6 They don’t articulate a clear vision. No one wants to follow in the dark. It’s impossible to motivate people who feel in a fog.

7 They don’t enroll others in their initiatives. 7 is related to No. 6. Some leaders just expect people will follow them just because of their position. Wrong. If a leader can’t enroll others, failure looms.

8 They’re not transparent. Openness encourages honesty. How often do we see the opposite playing out in business and politics? Scandal is only the endgame. But how many bad calls are made before the news finally breaks?

9 They’re blind to what’s happening in their own organizations. Insulation is fine for the walls of your house, but not for leadership. To lead requires visibility. Without it, you’ll find yourself blindsided and making major blunders.

10 They don’t hold people accountable – especially themselves. If a leader avoids responsibility and won’t hold their team accountable, they’ll shipwreck the organization. Accountability is essential.

Pick your crisis and you’ll usually find one of these ten traits of lousy leadership in action, often many of them all at once. Bad leadership traits go together.

It’s hard enough to succeed as a leader without being your own worst enemy.

Do you see any of these traits active in your leadership or those around you? What could you do to address them? If you see any of these in your leadership, now’s the time to deal with it. Your dreams and goals are too important to undermine.




(c) 2013, Michael Hyatt. Originally published at www.michaelhyatt.com.





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We are not meant to do it all by – Julie Sunne

Just because there is something to be done, does not mean it is yours to do.

I’m finally tired enough of being tired that I’ve decided to use my “no” more than my “yes.” In this age of crazy busyness, it’s necessary to be intentional, and that requires saying “no.”

It seems we all commit to way more than time permits. And it may be an epidemic in Christian circles.

For far too long, if there were something to do, I’d say yes. Be on this school committee? Sure. Help with this church activity? Of course. Edit this newsletter? I’ll get right to it.

What I found out was that by over-committing I didn’t do anything particularly well, and I couldn’t pursue the areas I was gifted in or serve my family well.

NY Times best-selling author and Proverbs 31 Ministries Founder Lysa Terkeurst knows the importance of this issue in our lives. She wrote an entire book that was just released on this very subject, The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands. Since I just started reading it, I won’t review it here, but so far, I’m finding it speaks to my heart.

Being Intentional

It takes great intention to turn down worthy requests. Our “no” has to be preplanned.

After much prayer and reflection, I’ve made certain determinations for my schedule for this next school year:

Teach Sunday School but do not serve in a leadership role;

Target my school volunteering to those activities my children are in or where my particular interests lie;

Prioritize time with God and Bible study;

Set aside an hour a day to write what God has placed on my heart;

Intentionally cultivate friendships;

Stop bleeding work into family time.

It’s not easy and I often feel guilty about not stepping up when there is a definite need in an area. However, I’ve realized that when I fill a position as just a warm body, I prevent someone else who may be better equipped from doing so.

Not to mention, when I say “yes” to everything, I overfill my schedule, which negatively affects God’s calling on my life, including caring for my family.

I can’t expect to serve God well when I’m run so ragged I don’t have the energy to hear or obey.

Six Suggestions

We are not meant to do it all.

We are each gifted in certain areas and called to certain tasks. The other tasks are for … well … others. And we were created to rest, as God did (Gen. 2:2).

Rushing through life merely causes us to miss much of the glory God offers in our earthly existence. When we purposely slow down, we find ourselves in a better position to listen and help.

So – may I ask – how are you going to take control of your crazy schedule this year? Might I give you six suggestions?

1) Study God’s Word.

2) Schedule in ink the non-negotiables: personal Bible study/prayer, family, sleep, meals, dates, exercise (I struggle with this one), worship.

3) Schedule other priorities: time set aside to cultivate friendships and pursue hobbies, clean house (maybe this should be a non-negotiable?).

4) Don’t give an immediate “yes” to a request. Pray about it as you carefully consider each request in light of your gifts and #1 and #2.

5) When you make a decision, act on it. Too often we guilt ourselves into changing our minds.

6) Remind yourself repeatedly – post it on your refrigerator, write it on your mirror, tattoo it on your hand (just kidding on that one) – Just because there is something to be done, does not mean it is yours to do.

Calming the chaos in our lives isn’t easy. And no one is going to do it for us.

Making best decisions for our time requires discipline – commitment to gather wisdom and learn discernment – then acting on both.

As Lysa wrote in her book, “You must not confuse the command to love with the disease to please.”

Go out and love and serve as you are equipped, but don’t bow to the pressure to please others. After all, the only One we need to answer to is God.

Apply yourself to discipline and listen to words of knowledge. (Proverbs 23:12)

Pause and Reflect:

How do you avoid the trap to say “yes” to everything? Any suggestions?

• Look back at the suggestions and make a list of must-dos, then make a list of want-to-dos. Be sure to include play time, work time, reflection time, planning time, and especially God-time.

• Consider times when you have felt overwhelmed. What could you have done differently to release the pressure of too many things to do?

• What are the lessons learned?

– Julie Sunne

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